How to write a groom speech
Written by the Toast Worthy speech team · Updated August 2026
The short answer
The structure of a great groom speech
- 1Thank the guests, both families, and the wedding party
- 2Thank and toast the bridesmaids
- 3Speak directly to your partner — why today matters
- 4One honest, personal line about your love
- 5Thank those who couldn't be there
- 6A toast to your new spouse
A full groom speech example
There's a lot I could say about Jordan today, some of it flattering, and I promise to get to that part eventually.
Jordan, before I met you I thought I had life mostly figured out. You gently showed me I didn't, and then made everything better than I'd planned.
So let me switch gears for a second, because there's something I really do want to say.
Marriage teaches you loyalty, patience, and understanding. Which means Jordan had absolutely none of these before they met Jordan.
In the end, love is just the decision to face the whole unpredictable future beside one person, and Jordan and Jordan are facing it hand in hand.
Here's to Jordan and Jordan: two of my favourite people, now officially stuck with each other. Glasses up.
How long should it be?
| Length | Words | Best for |
|---|---|---|
| 2 minutes | ~260 words | One story, one laugh, a toast. Great for a big wedding party. |
| 3–4 minutes | ~400–520 words | The sweet spot: a story, a tease, a heartfelt turn, a toast. |
| 5 minutes | ~650 words | The maximum before a room gets restless. Don't go over. |
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Frequently asked questions
How long should a groom speech be?+
Three to five minutes — about 400 to 650 words. Five minutes is the ceiling before a wedding crowd starts to fidget.
How do you start a groom speech?+
With a hook, not a housekeeping note. A specific image, a gentle joke, or a promise beats "for those who don't know me" every time. See the opening-lines guide below.
How do you end a groom speech?+
With a toast. Turn to the couple, raise a glass, and give the room a clear line to echo — "To the happy couple!"
Can I use a template or an AI writer for a groom speech?+
Yes — a good template gives you the structure, and a guided writer like Toast Worthy turns your own stories into a finished, right-length speech. The trick is to keep it personal: real memories are what make it land.
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